Hello! We're Nathan & Lacey Steel, your small group relational discipleship coaches.
To accomplish this, we've assembled six 6-part series from our Coaching with Cultivate videos. Each series focuses on a specific aspect of relationships or circumstances — equipping you with tools to develop healthy mindsets and behaviors.
+ ABOUT THE CURRICULUM
+ HOW TO HOST A SMALL GROUP
- Welcome & Prayer (1-3 min)
- Review & Discuss Previous Week's Activation (10 min)
- Watch Video (10-15 min)
- Discuss Questions (30 min)
- Review Activation/Next Steps (5 min)
- Prayer & Dismiss (1-3 min)
| SERIES 1 COMMUNICATION |
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CWC | The Steel’s StoryNathan and Lacey share their story of how they restored their marriage. Nathan struggled with a deep-rooted bitterness toward his dad, an inability to share his feelings, and a 20-year addiction to pornography. Lacey struggled with a fear that fed her explosive anger producing a need to control her husband and circumstances. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | What Does God Think About YouIn this video, we discuss why it is important to receive and experience God’s love. We will also walk you through a prayer that will encourage you to hear God’s voice — listening for what He thinks about you — His specific word of love over you. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Tips For Fighting WellIn this video, we share three tips for how to fight well with others. Whether it’s with a spouse, family member, or friend, these three basic ground rules for any healthy argument. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Get Someone To TalkIn this video, we share six tips to help you get someone to talk (or, if you’re the non-talker, help you begin to talk). VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Get Them To Stop TalkingIn this video, we share six tips to help you get someone to stop talking (or, if you’re the talker help you to stop talking). VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Apologize (Say, “I’m Sorry”)In this video, we discuss the 5 characteristics of a thoughtful apology. VIEW VIDEO
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| SERIES 2 FAILURE |
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CWC | Messing Up God’s Plan For YouIn this video, we discuss whether we can mess up God’s plan for our life. The short answer is yes and no. God is infinite and bigger than any mistake we can make. But also, He’s not. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Dealing With Perceived FailureIn this video, we share two areas of perceived failure: relational and circumstantial. We also discuss what you can do to change these feelings of being a failure. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Failure As DirectionIn this video, we discuss how failure may be direction in your life. God may use failure (or perceived failure) as His way of directing us. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Failure As SuccessIn this video, we define success and what that means for you. We also look at how succeeding can be messy and include mistakes and failures. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Knowing When To QuitIn this video, we discuss how you know when to quit your pursuit of a goal or at least shift your methods of achieving a goal. We also share two specific ways to evaluate if it is time to make this decision. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Resolving DisappointmentIn this video, we discuss disappointment. Unless resolved in a healthy way, our unmet or unfulfilled expectations can result in frustration and depression. VIEW VIDEO
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| SERIES 3 ASSUMPTIONS |
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CWC | The Assumptions That Are Ruining Your RelationshipsIn this video, we reveal two facts about assumptions that may be destroying your relationships. We describe two easy ways you can go from hurting your relationships to helping your relationships through your assumptions. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Apologize (Say, “I’m Sorry”)In this video, we discuss the 5 characteristics of a thoughtful apology. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | What To Do When Your Negative Assumptions Aren’t WrongIn this video, we discuss the 3 ways you can believe the best about someone even when your negative assumptions about them aren’t wrong. We also reveal a perspective change that will help you appreciate them more even if they still fail to meet your expectations. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Resolving DisappointmentIn this video, we discuss disappointment. Unless resolved in a healthy way, our unmet or unfulfilled expectations can result in frustration and depression. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Focus On StrengthsIn this video, we share 3 ways for you to focus on, enhance, and thrive in your strengths AND someone else’s. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | 4 Steps For Building Healthy ExpectationsIn this video, we discuss 4 steps for building healthy expectations for the people in our life. We also reveal the leading cause of being frustrated or disappointed in those relationships. VIEW VIDEO
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| SERIES 4 FRIENDSHIP |
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CWC | Influence PeopleIn this video, we address three questions that need to be answered before we spend time with someone. It might surprise you to know the extent to which you are influenced by those with whom you spend time. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Qualities Of A Good FriendIn this video, we discuss what it means to be a good friend. We also share four was you can be both vulnerable and caring to your friends. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Make FriendsIn this video, we share four tips on how to make friends and where to find them. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Have Close FriendsIn this video, we share three steps to adding value and depth to your friendships. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | The Assumptions That Are Ruining Your RelationshipsIn this video, we reveal two facts about assumptions that may be destroying your relationships. We describe two easy ways you can go from hurting your relationships to helping your relationships through your assumptions. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | 4 Steps For Building Healthy ExpectationsIn this video, we discuss 4 steps for building healthy expectations for the people in our life. We also reveal the leading cause of being frustrated or disappointed in those relationships. VIEW VIDEO
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| SERIES 5 CONFLICT |
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CWC | Making Forced Relationships WorkIn this video, we share 3 tips for thriving in a forced relationship. This might include family members, co- workers, or just about anyone you must spend time with for one reason or another. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Make Conflict A Good ThingIn this video, we discuss the 2 negative views of confrontation. We also share 2 ways to make confrontation work for you and how you can implement them into your next conflict. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Tips For Fighting WellIn this video, we share three tips for how to fight well with others. Whether it’s with a spouse, family member, or friend, these three basic ground rules for any healthy argument. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Apologize (Say, “I’m Sorry”)In this video, we discuss the 5 characteristics of a thoughtful apology. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Dealing With Opinionated PeopleIn this episode, Nathan and Lacey will be discussing how to love and be in unity with people with whom you disagree with their opinions and viewpoints. They will also redefine what love means. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | 4 Steps To Healthy ConfrontationIn this video, we reveal 4 steps to making your confrontation healthy (or healthier). They also discuss how to immediately apply the 4 techniques if you’re an avoider or a seeker of confrontation. VIEW VIDEO
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| SERIES 6 DISAPPOINTMENT |
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CWC | Dealing With Feeling PowerlessIn this video, we discuss how the debilitating sense of feeling out of control comes from our view of ourselves. That’s right, feeling powerless comes from believing you are powerless. Who you believe you are will determine what you believe you can do. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Perception Is RealityIn this video, we discuss how our view of God — our foundational belief about His character — informs our circumstances. Our perception of Him creates a reality from which we experience life. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Cope With (Or Prevent) AnxietyIn this episode, Nathan and Lacey give two helpful steps for dealing with anxiety. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Messing Up God’s Plan For YouIn this video, we discuss whether we can mess up God’s plan for our life. The short answer is yes and no. God is infinite and bigger than any mistake we can make. But also, He’s not. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Resolving DisappointmentIn this video, we discuss disappointment. Unless resolved in a healthy way, our unmet or unfulfilled expectations can result in frustration and depression. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Deal With Loss & GriefIn this video, Nathan and Lacey discuss how to process the loss of a loved one, a dream, a job, or maybe you just feel disappointed at how life is turning out. They will give you practical steps to living free of the pain that can often hold us back. VIEW VIDEO
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| SERIES RELATIONSHIP JOURNEY |
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CWC | The Steel’s StoryNathan and Lacey share their story of how they restored their marriage. Nathan struggled with a deep-rooted bitterness toward his dad, an inability to share his feelings, and a 20-year addiction to pornography. Lacey struggled with a fear that fed her explosive anger producing a need to control her husband and circumstances. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Nathan’s StoryIn this episode, Nathan shares his story of how he overcame his addiction to pornography, isolation, and negative self-talk. Nathan struggled with a deep-rooted bitterness toward his dad, an inability to share his feelings, and a 20-year addiction to pornography. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Lacey’s StoryIn this episode, Lacey shares her story of how she overcame her addiction to fear, anger, and control. Lacey struggled with a fear that fed her explosive anger producing a need to control people and circumstances. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | What Does God Think About YouIn this video, we discuss why it is important to receive and experience God’s love. We will also walk you through a prayer that will encourage you to hear God’s voice — listening for what He thinks about you — His specific word of love over you. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Feel Loved By GodIn this episode, Nathan and Lacey reveal two ways we prevent ourselves from feeling loved by God. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Messing Up God’s Plan For YouIn this video, we discuss whether we can mess up God’s plan for our life. The short answer is yes and no. God is infinite and bigger than any mistake we can make. But also, He’s not. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Dealing With Perceived FailureIn this video, we share two areas of perceived failure: relational and circumstantial. We also discuss what you can do to change these feelings of being a failure. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Resolving DisappointmentIn this video, we discuss disappointment. Unless resolved in a healthy way, our unmet or unfulfilled expectations can result in frustration and depression. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Immediately Change A Bad RelationshipIn this video, Nathan and Lacey discuss how to immediately change a bad relationship TODAY in three simple (but probably not easy) steps. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Focus On StrengthsIn this video, we share 3 ways for you to focus on, enhance, and thrive in your strengths AND someone else’s. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Dealing With Opinionated PeopleIn this episode, Nathan and Lacey will be discussing how to love and be in unity with people with whom you disagree with their opinions and viewpoints. They will also redefine what love means. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Get Them To Stop TalkingIn this video, we share six tips to help you get someone to stop talking (or, if you’re the talker help you to stop talking). VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Get Someone To TalkIn this video, we share six tips to help you get someone to talk (or, if you’re the non-talker, help you begin to talk). VIEW VIDEO
CWC | The Assumptions That Are Ruining Your RelationshipsIn this video, we reveal two facts about assumptions that may be destroying your relationships. We describe two easy ways you can go from hurting your relationships to helping your relationships through your assumptions. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | What To Do When Your Negative Assumptions Aren’t WrongIn this video, we discuss the 3 ways you can believe the best about someone even when your negative assumptions about them aren’t wrong. We also reveal a perspective change that will help you appreciate them more even if they still fail to meet your expectations. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | 4 Steps For Building Healthy ExpectationsIn this video, we discuss 4 steps for building healthy expectations for the people in our life. We also reveal the leading cause of being frustrated or disappointed in those relationships. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Tips For Fighting WellIn this video, we share three tips for how to fight well with others. Whether it’s with a spouse, family member, or friend, these three basic ground rules for any healthy argument. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Make Conflict A Good ThingIn this video, we discuss the 2 negative views of confrontation. We also share 2 ways to make confrontation work for you and how you can implement them into your next conflict. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | 4 Steps To Healthy ConfrontationIn this video, we reveal 4 steps to making your confrontation healthy (or healthier). They also discuss how to immediately apply the 4 techniques if you’re an avoider or a seeker of confrontation. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Apologize (Say, “I’m Sorry”)In this video, we discuss the 5 characteristics of a thoughtful apology. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Making Forced Relationships WorkIn this video, we share 3 tips for thriving in a forced relationship. This might include family members, co- workers, or just about anyone you must spend time with for one reason or another. VIEW VIDEO
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COACHING VIDEOS
Are none of our pre-made series working for you? Maybe you've already finished them all. No worries, you can build and organize your own small group curriculum — picking the studies and length of time (how many weeks) that best fit your group. Click the link below to view our entire list of Coaching with Cultivate videos — including some that we haven't included in our pre-built playlists (indicated by **_____**).
| COACHING WITH CULTIVATE ALL SMALL GROUP VIDEOS |
CWC | The Steel’s StoryNathan and Lacey share their story of how they restored their marriage. Nathan struggled with a deep-rooted bitterness toward his dad, an inability to share his feelings, and a 20-year addiction to pornography. Lacey struggled with a fear that fed her explosive anger producing a need to control her husband and circumstances. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Nathan’s StoryIn this episode, Nathan shares his story of how he overcame his addiction to pornography, isolation, and negative self-talk. Nathan struggled with a deep-rooted bitterness toward his dad, an inability to share his feelings, and a 20-year addiction to pornography. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Lacey’s StoryIn this episode, Lacey shares her story of how she overcame her addiction to fear, anger, and control. Lacey struggled with a fear that fed her explosive anger producing a need to control people and circumstances. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Perception Is RealityIn this video, we discuss how our view of God — our foundational belief about His character — informs our circumstances. Our perception of Him creates a reality from which we experience life. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | What Does God Think About YouIn this video, we discuss why it is important to receive and experience God’s love. We will also walk you through a prayer that will encourage you to hear God’s voice — listening for what He thinks about you — His specific word of love over you. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Feel Loved By GodIn this episode, Nathan and Lacey reveal two ways we prevent ourselves from feeling loved by God. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Dealing With Opinionated PeopleIn this episode, Nathan and Lacey will be discussing how to love and be in unity with people with whom you disagree with their opinions and viewpoints. They will also redefine what love means. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Dealing With Feeling PowerlessIn this video, we discuss how the debilitating sense of feeling out of control comes from our view of ourselves. That’s right, feeling powerless comes from believing you are powerless. Who you believe you are will determine what you believe you can do. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Immediately Change A Bad RelationshipIn this video, Nathan and Lacey discuss how to immediately change a bad relationship TODAY in three simple (but probably not easy) steps. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Apologize (Say, “I’m Sorry”)In this video, we discuss the 5 characteristics of a thoughtful apology. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | The Assumptions That Are Ruining Your RelationshipsIn this video, we reveal two facts about assumptions that may be destroying your relationships. We describe two easy ways you can go from hurting your relationships to helping your relationships through your assumptions. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | 4 Steps For Building Healthy ExpectationsIn this video, we discuss 4 steps for building healthy expectations for the people in our life. We also reveal the leading cause of being frustrated or disappointed in those relationships. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | What To Do When Your Negative Assumptions Aren’t WrongIn this video, we discuss the 3 ways you can believe the best about someone even when your negative assumptions about them aren’t wrong. We also reveal a perspective change that will help you appreciate them more even if they still fail to meet your expectations. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Focus On StrengthsIn this video, we share 3 ways for you to focus on, enhance, and thrive in your strengths AND someone else’s. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Make Conflict A Good ThingIn this video, we discuss the 2 negative views of confrontation. We also share 2 ways to make confrontation work for you and how you can implement them into your next conflict. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | 4 Steps To Healthy ConfrontationIn this video, we reveal 4 steps to making your confrontation healthy (or healthier). They also discuss how to immediately apply the 4 techniques if you’re an avoider or a seeker of confrontation. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Tips For Fighting WellIn this video, we share three tips for how to fight well with others. Whether it’s with a spouse, family member, or friend, these three basic ground rules for any healthy argument. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Get Them To Stop TalkingIn this video, we share six tips to help you get someone to stop talking (or, if you’re the talker help you to stop talking). VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Get Someone To TalkIn this video, we share six tips to help you get someone to talk (or, if you’re the non-talker, help you begin to talk). VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Influence PeopleIn this video, we address three questions that need to be answered before we spend time with someone. It might surprise you to know the extent to which you are influenced by those with whom you spend time. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Make FriendsIn this video, we share four tips on how to make friends and where to find them. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Qualities Of A Good FriendIn this video, we discuss what it means to be a good friend. We also share four was you can be both vulnerable and caring to your friends. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Have Close FriendsIn this video, we share three steps to adding value and depth to your friendships. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Making Forced Relationships WorkIn this video, we share 3 tips for thriving in a forced relationship. This might include family members, co- workers, or just about anyone you must spend time with for one reason or another. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Deal With Loss & GriefIn this video, Nathan and Lacey discuss how to process the loss of a loved one, a dream, a job, or maybe you just feel disappointed at how life is turning out. They will give you practical steps to living free of the pain that can often hold us back. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Resolving DisappointmentIn this video, we discuss disappointment. Unless resolved in a healthy way, our unmet or unfulfilled expectations can result in frustration and depression. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Dealing With Perceived FailureIn this video, we share two areas of perceived failure: relational and circumstantial. We also discuss what you can do to change these feelings of being a failure. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Failure As DirectionIn this video, we discuss how failure may be direction in your life. God may use failure (or perceived failure) as His way of directing us. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Failure As SuccessIn this video, we define success and what that means for you. We also look at how succeeding can be messy and include mistakes and failures. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Knowing When To QuitIn this video, we discuss how you know when to quit your pursuit of a goal or at least shift your methods of achieving a goal. We also share two specific ways to evaluate if it is time to make this decision. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | Messing Up God’s Plan For YouIn this video, we discuss whether we can mess up God’s plan for our life. The short answer is yes and no. God is infinite and bigger than any mistake we can make. But also, He’s not. VIEW VIDEO
CWC | How To Cope With (Or Prevent) AnxietyIn this episode, Nathan and Lacey give two helpful steps for dealing with anxiety. VIEW VIDEO
**CWC | Why We Fail At Building Habits Or Achieving Goals (And What To Do About It)**In this video, Nathan and Lacey reveal the three biggest reasons your New Year’s resolution (building a new habit or achieving a specific goal) will probably fail. They also explain how to make the necessary changes to make sure you succeed in building a healthy, simple, and achievable habit. VIEW VIDEO
