Hello! We're Nathan & Lacey Steel, your small group relational discipleship coaches.
To accomplish this, we've assembled six 6-part series from our Coaching with Cultivate videos. Each series focuses on a specific aspect of relationships or circumstances — equipping you with tools to develop healthy mindsets and behaviors.
ABOUT THE CURRICULUM
Each video comes with discussion questions that will take you deeper into the concepts presented — giving you clear, practical steps to implement into your relationships or circumstances. We highly recommend going through these series in a small group setting (with 6-8 other people). However, individuals have also seen the benefit of simply sitting down and going through these videos and discussion questions themselves. So whether your small group is located in Homer, Alaska; Westport, Ireland; or somewhere in between, this curriculum can benefit you.
HOW TO HOST A SMALL GROUP
Hosting a small group is made simple with these video series and can be accomplished in as little as one hour a week. All you need is a location, printer, internet acccess (unless you download the video prior to the meeting), possibly some snacks, and definitely some coffee (because it's the catalyst for any successful small group). The following is a suggested schedule and is meant only to be a foundation to build from.
- Welcome & Prayer (1-3 min)
- Review & Discuss Previous Week's Activation (10 min)
- Watch Video (10-15 min)
- Discuss Questions (30 min)
- Review Activation/Next Steps (5 min)
- Prayer & Dismiss (1-3 min)
COACHING VIDEOS
Are none of our pre-made series working for you? Maybe you've already finished them all. No worries, you can build and organize your own small group curriculum — picking the studies and length of time (how many weeks) that best fit your group. Click the link below to view our entire list of Coaching with Cultivate videos — including some that we haven't included in our pre-built playlists (indicated by **).
| COACHING WITH CULTIVATE ALL SMALL GROUP VIDEOS |
CWC | The Steel’s StoryNathan and Lacey share their story of how they restored their marriage. Nathan struggled with a deep-rooted bitterness toward his dad, an inability to share his feelings, and a 20-year addiction to pornography. Lacey struggled with a fear that fed her explosive anger producing a need to control her husband ...
CWC | Nathan’s StoryIn this episode, Nathan shares his story of how he overcame his addiction to pornography, isolation, and negative self-talk. Nathan struggled with a deep-rooted bitterness toward his dad, an inability to share his feelings, and a 20-year addiction to pornography.
CWC | Lacey’s StoryIn this episode, Lacey shares her story of how she overcame her addiction to fear, anger, and control. Lacey struggled with a fear that fed her explosive anger producing a need to control people and circumstances.
CWC | Perception Is RealityIn this video, we discuss how our view of God — our foundational belief about His character — informs our circumstances. Our perception of Him creates a reality from which we experience life.
CWC | What Does God Think About YouIn this video, we discuss why it is important to receive and experience God’s love. We will also walk you through a prayer that will encourage you to hear God’s voice — listening for what He thinks about you — His specific word of love over you.
CWC | How To Feel Loved By GodIn this episode, Nathan and Lacey reveal two ways we prevent ourselves from feeling loved by God.
CWC | Dealing With Opinionated PeopleIn this episode, Nathan and Lacey will be discussing how to love and be in unity with people with whom you disagree with their opinions and viewpoints. They will also redefine what love means.
CWC | Dealing With Feeling PowerlessIn this video, we discuss how the debilitating sense of feeling out of control comes from our view of ourselves. That’s right, feeling powerless comes from believing you are powerless. Who you believe you are will determine what you believe you can do.
CWC | How To Immediately Change A Bad RelationshipIn this video, Nathan and Lacey discuss how to immediately change a bad relationship TODAY in three simple (but probably not easy) steps.
CWC | How To Apologize (Say, “I’m Sorry”)In this video, we discuss the 5 characteristics of a thoughtful apology.
CWC | The Assumptions That Are Ruining Your RelationshipsIn this video, we reveal two facts about assumptions that may be destroying your relationships. We describe two easy ways you can go from hurting your relationships to helping your relationships through your assumptions.
CWC | 4 Steps For Building Healthy ExpectationsIn this video, we discuss 4 steps for building healthy expectations for the people in our life. We also reveal the leading cause of being frustrated or disappointed in those relationships.
CWC | What To Do When Your Negative Assumptions Aren’t WrongIn this video, we discuss the 3 ways you can believe the best about someone even when your negative assumptions about them aren’t wrong. We also reveal a perspective change that will help you appreciate them more even if they still fail to meet your expectations.
CWC | Focus On StrengthsIn this video, we share 3 ways for you to focus on, enhance, and thrive in your strengths AND someone else’s.
CWC | How To Make Conflict A Good ThingIn this video, we discuss the 2 negative views of confrontation. We also share 2 ways to make confrontation work for you and how you can implement them into your next conflict.
CWC | 4 Steps To Healthy ConfrontationIn this video, we reveal 4 steps to making your confrontation healthy (or healthier). They also discuss how to immediately apply the 4 techniques if you’re an avoider or a seeker of confrontation.
CWC | Tips For Fighting WellIn this video, we share three tips for how to fight well with others. Whether it’s with a spouse, family member, or friend, these three basic ground rules for any healthy argument.
CWC | Get Them To Stop TalkingIn this video, we share six tips to help you get someone to stop talking (or, if you’re the talker help you to stop talking).
CWC | How To Get Someone To TalkIn this video, we share six tips to help you get someone to talk (or, if you’re the non-talker, help you begin to talk).
CWC | Influence PeopleIn this video, we address three questions that need to be answered before we spend time with someone. It might surprise you to know the extent to which you are influenced by those with whom you spend time.
CWC | How To Make FriendsIn this video, we share four tips on how to make friends and where to find them.
CWC | Qualities Of A Good FriendIn this video, we discuss what it means to be a good friend. We also share four was you can be both vulnerable and caring to your friends.
CWC | How To Have Close FriendsIn this video, we share three steps to adding value and depth to your friendships.
CWC | Making Forced Relationships WorkIn this video, we share 3 tips for thriving in a forced relationship. This might include family members, co- workers, or just about anyone you must spend time with for one reason or another.
CWC | How To Deal With Loss & GriefIn this video, Nathan and Lacey discuss how to process the loss of a loved one, a dream, a job, or maybe you just feel disappointed at how life is turning out. They will give you practical steps to living free of the pain that can often hold us back.
CWC | Resolving DisappointmentIn this video, we discuss disappointment. Unless resolved in a healthy way, our unmet or unfulfilled expectations can result in frustration and depression.
CWC | Dealing With Perceived FailureIn this video, we share two areas of perceived failure: relational and circumstantial. We also discuss what you can do to change these feelings of being a failure.
CWC | Failure As DirectionIn this video, we discuss how failure may be direction in your life. God may use failure (or perceived failure) as His way of directing us.
CWC | Failure As SuccessIn this video, we define success and what that means for you. We also look at how succeeding can be messy and include mistakes and failures.
CWC | Knowing When To QuitIn this video, we discuss how you know when to quit your pursuit of a goal or at least shift your methods of achieving a goal. We also share two specific ways to evaluate if it is time to make this decision.
CWC | Messing Up God’s Plan For YouIn this video, we discuss whether we can mess up God’s plan for our life. The short answer is yes and no. God is infinite and bigger than any mistake we can make. But also, He’s not.
CWC | How To Cope With (Or Prevent) AnxietyIn this episode, Nathan and Lacey give two helpful steps for dealing with anxiety.
*CWC | Why We Fail At Building Habits Or Achieving Goals (And What To Do About It)In this video, Nathan and Lacey reveal the three biggest reasons your New Year’s resolution (building a new habit or achieving a specific goal) will probably fail. They also explain how to make the necessary changes to make sure you succeed in building a healthy, simple, and achievable habit.
