When I was first learning to teach, I mimicked the preachers and teachers I admired most — right down to their clothes, glasses, cadence, and gestures. If they paced the stage a certain way, so did I. If they used dramatic pauses and contemplative questions, I threw them in too. I thought I was being original, but really, I was just a reflection of those who had allowed to influence me. If you want a good laugh, click the following link to watch one of my earliest recorded teachings from 2010: https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20100314-an-introduction-to-prayer/
Whether we realize it or not, we become like the people we admire and spend time with. The question is — are we choosing the right people to shape us? Here’s how to seek out and learn from the right people:
Find Godly Examples to Follow – Look for people whose lives reflect a dependence upon the Holy Spirit (in real life, not on a screen) — those who live with wisdom, integrity, grace, and love. Or, find people with the characteristics you admire and want to grow in. The right role models challenge and inspire us to grow. “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ” (1 Corinthians 11.1).
Spend Time With Them – Growth doesn’t happen from a distance (or from watching a screen). Whether through discipleship, friendship, or simply observing someone in person, being around the right people (especially vulnerable people) helps us absorb their wisdom and habits. “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm” (Proverbs 13.20).
Apply What You Learn – It’s not enough to be with someone (as opposed to just watching someone on a screen) — real growth happens when we practice what we have witnessed in others. Take what they’ve taught you and modeled to you and put it into action. “Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me — put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4.9).
This week, ask yourself: Who am I allowing to shape my life, and are they leading me to be more like Jesus?
We all become like those we hang out with — let’s make sure we’re becoming more like Jesus-people.
God bless —
Nathan
